Wednesday, July 28, 2010

Since you've been gone...

Okay, well you haven't been gone. I've been gone. Not gone, just busy. And I have had so much fun over the last week! I love having my husband home. He just kinda completes everything. Here's a recap:

Wednesday: Husband arrives. Best night ever! We met him at the airport, ate yummy ham, went for a walk, and just reveled in the fact that he is HERE!
Thursday: Pretty uneventful. I work. Hubs does his rounds and says hi to everyone here. We meet my dad and his girlfriend for sushi (yum!) and go for another walk. 
Friday:Date night! Oh I love those! J's parents gave us a gift card to Red Lobster for our anniversary. I ate my little heart out in crab and shrimp. Amazing. Watched a movie. And I got to hang out with some very good friends from Portland. A pretty perfect night. 
Saturday: This day was supposed to be the bachelorette party. Instead of doing that, my hubs stole me away and we went camping and boating. We both wakeboarded and I tubed. Awesome day. I actually got up on the wakeboard and had a nice little run. Hubs is a much better wakeboarder than I am. He had some pretty long runs! Then, J pulled me on the tube and I was so scared/having so much fun that my knuckles were white from holding on. He was going pretty fast! Then we camped at a friends cabin and just relaxed together. I love camping!
Sunday: While we were still at the cabin, we went for a long walk. About three miles. And all of the dogs went. Even my chubby wiener dog! After the long walk, we packed up to go home. Once we were home, this was our day to just catch up. We bathed all the dogs once we got home. They were SO dirty! And poor Bob. He was covered in burrs, sticks and grossness. So off the the groomers we went. And now Bob is shaved. He is pretty freakin cute! 
Monday: Just a regular day. I worked, J went down to the recruiting office. We hung out after work. Ate dinner together, went for a walk and are just enjoying the time we have together. 
Tuesday: Only worked 11-3!! After work we went to a friends pool and hung out. It started to warm rain while we were swimming, so fun!
Wednesday: Only working 11-3 again and planning another afternoon in the pool. Love this time with my husband!

I've have totally been MIA, but I am still keeping up with y'all (opps, Google Reader at work!). 
I'm off to make banana pancakes for my hubs (or more accurately for myself). Till next time!!!

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Rant. Sorry

You’ve been warned. This is A) Looonnnggg, and B) its a long rant. Feel free to quit reading now =)

Words don’t even begin to describe how seriously ticked off I am. Remember me talking about how I have a bachelorette party to go to while my husband is here and how I am over committing myself? Well, I ended up telling the maid-of-honor in charge of planning the party (K) that I will not be able to go to the party, but I would love to make the dinner. Nice compromise right? I am seeing the bride to be, all of the girls will be there, and I will still get to spend time with my hunny. Perfect! Well, apparently not. I have gotten so much flack from the girl planning the party (K) and another maid of honor (A) that I might scream and pull my hair out.

Yesterday is when everything started. I get a text message from the person planning the party basically saying that my husband is not allowed to be downtown while we are at the bachelorette party. While I realize that this is a “girls only” kind of thing, I am not going to tell my husband where he can or can’t go. And if I am downtown at the bars and he wants to see me, guess where he is going to be. What could have been an easy discussion turned in to a text message fight. Awesome, cause those are just great. I ended up deciding to just take the bull by the horns and talk to the bride to be. She is married to a National Guardsman, who has recently returned from Iraq. If anyone is going to understand this situation, it’s gonna be her. And when I talked to her, all she says is “of course I understand. I would be doing the same thing. If you don’t even want to come to the dinner I completely understand. It is not a big deal. I will be at K’s house all morning and afternoon if you want to come over and just hang out with me.”Sweet, this party is about her and she is (or at least says she is) fine with it. I text K saying that I will not be going on the bus or downtown but I will be going to the dinner and that I talked to the bride and it was all fine with her. Problem solved, right?
Wrong. This morning I get a text from A saying, and I quote “You should really come to the bachelorette party it’s only one night and you are in the wedding.” Um… I am pretty sure that I know that it’s one night and I only get 9 of them with my husband. I have no idea if he is deploying soon or not and I have spent more than 4 months away from my husband. While it may only be one night, it’s pretty freakin’ important night to me. And I basically told her just that, in a slightly nicer way. And then it only got better. She let me know that by bailing on them less than a week before the party, I am making it more stressful on the ones financially responsible. Okay, I will give you $30 to spend the night with my husband. Money well spent in my opinion, but I am a little livid that she asked about it. I cannot believe what a huge deal that this has turned into. And I can’t understand that my “friends” are upset with me for wanting to spend time with my husband. Are these people really my friends? Because I am seriously reconsidering a few of my friendships at this point.
This is the other part of my rant: The bachelorette party that is being planned, everything seems to have to “one p” the last bachelorette party. So-and-so had a limo, well we have a party bus, oh they all went to the mall to get their make-up done, well I am having someone come to my house and do it. Hers was all night long, well mine starts at 2:30. Seriously? What is with the competition? Why can’t it just be a fun girls night out? Why are we competing among friends? And I don’t know if all of this is the brides wishes or if it is the person planning the party (or both) but can I just say that I am so glad that I am married and not feeling the urge to “one up” anyone else? At my bachelorette party we dressed up (80’s style!!) went to dinner, and had a girl’s night. It was super fun, relaxed, and no one had to “one up” anyone else. I’m sorry, but we do not live in Beverly Hills. We are not Paris Hilton (no offense Paris) and we are supposed to be friends. If you really care about making sure that whatever you are doing is better than what someone else has done, than I am not sure that we should be friends.

I am proud of myself that I prayed really hard before sending any text messages or talking to all of these people. I was so angry yesterday and today that I was shaking. I really tried to respond in kindness and with loving words, even if I really just wanted to scream at them and tell them where to shove it. . I am thankful for the people who prayed for wisdom and the right words and I am thankful for my sister-in-law who told me, “If they don’t like it, tell them to come talk to me! I’ll gladly be your enforcer!” (BTW she is a tiny thing that is maybe 115 pounds soaking wet, but I would be shaking in my boots if she was mad a t me. Seriously!)

I am still a little bit amazed that I have made these people so mad at me. And all I am trying to do is what’s best for my family. And unfortunately it means not attending this event. Oh well. My husband is more important to me than any friendship I have. Sad for my friends. but true.

For anyone who reads this post, thanks for listening. I truly appreciate the support that you get from blogging. I wish that some of my in person friends were as supportive.

Love, L

Sunday, July 18, 2010

Living the Single Life

I will be the first to admit that I do not enjoy living the single life. I hate going out, cooking for one, hanging at the house by myself, and being alone for long periods of time. 
I married my best friend for a reason. I love cooking with him or cooking for him. I enjoy going to parties with my husband because I always know that if I am needing someone to talk to or someone to laugh with he is always there. I love having "date night" at home, or going hiking with my husband. We do things together that I could not (or would not) do by myself. Even if we spend the whole day at our house doing nothing, it is till better than doing nothing by myself. 

And now I am a military wife. 

I know that my husband is going to deploy. I know that he will spend long periods of time away from home even if he is not deployed. And even though I am new to this and really have only a slight clue about what is going on, I know for sure that I will spend a fair amount of our marriage by myself. 

Am I ready for this? Well ready or not here it comes. 

Will I learn to love cooking for 1? Will I be able to get off of my couch and do something on weekends or evenings? I know that I will make friends, but what do you do to keep busy? Do you have a hobby? 
For now, I will be thankful that I have a husband coming home in a few days. And hopefully I will have ample time to think about what hobbies I could take up while he is gone. 

I love you Favorite, and I can't wait for you to be home.

Maybe I'll make my Mom happy and take up knitting! =)
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Saturday, July 17, 2010

Sunshine fixes everything...

The weather here is Oregon is absolutely amazing! And I am lucky enough to have a friend with a pool. Today I got to spend a good 4 hours lounging in the water talking "girl talk." That has made for a fabulous Saturday. And though I may not get as dark as my husband, I think I am a fabulous dark white =)

I love love love summertime. I feel like I can wear less make up, lovely summer dresses and swim coverups, flip flops and have messy hair. It's pretty much an amazing time. I love spending time on any form of water. And here we have it all: lakes, river, beaches and pools. Pretty much an amazing place to live. 

I think that Washington will be amazing in it's own way. It may be a bit colder, rainier, and less sunny but I am sure it will be nice in it's own way. On a good note, I will be able to wear jeans pretty much year round *note to Hubs - this means more jean shopping*  Oh how I love a great pair of jeans. =)

Only a few more days till my J gets here!!! And I am not sure what is going on, but that boy has some tricks up his sleeve. He is keeping secrets and I can't wait to find out what is going on. I LOVE surprises!

Hope y'all are having a fabulous weekend! 

Thursday, July 15, 2010


Do everything without arguing or complaining - Philippians 2:14

This verse makes me feel guilty. Yep. Very guilty. Do I live my life with out arguing or complaining? Nope. Sure don't.

This verse was told to me about a week ago by a co-worker (who works at a different store). She mentioned that this was something she was working on, especially in her work life. And as soon as she said the words, I knew that this was something that I needed to work on as well. 

I am working on this most in my "work life." I work with some fairly negative people. And I am pretty sure that my positive attitude ticks them off. And it is SO EASY for my attitude to be brought right down with them. So I am doing my best to implement this verse in my daily work life. Helping those around me will hopefully help bring their attitudes up as well as keeping mine up. I hope!

Everyone complains. Everyone argues. It is human nature! But now that this verse is on my heart I am trying to do better. 

And on an almost opposite topic, I talked to my Mom today and she reminded me how important spending time with my husband. She told me to quit overextending and over-committing myself. While my husband will be home, I have not taken any days off. (Um, I will be the first to admit that I should probably take some time off)

 Also, on the possibly the only Saturday that my husband is here, I have to attend an all day bachelorette party (starting at 2:30pm). Not only all day, but all night too. There is not way that I can just not go. I am in the wedding. And it's not like she knew when J was coming back so it could be planned around, we had no idea when he was coming back. And I feel like I can't get out of this, but I want to spend all the time with my husband (it's been a looong 4 months!). Talk about hittin' it home, Mom. I try and try and try to please everyone, make everyone happy, and I just can't do it. And I know that. Duh, right? But it doesn't stop me from trying. 

So I am going to take some advice from the bible and some advice from my Moms and work at doing what is right for ME. 

And that's all she wrote!

Tuesday, July 13, 2010

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Not much longer until the hubs gets here! Today my MoLaw and I got his car out of "storage" (aka my dad's house). I need to take that thing for a bath in the next few days! And Windex the windows. Even the inside is dusty! But all of this silly stuff makes me excited because that means that J is SO CLOSE to being here! I am trying to not dwell on the fact that he will only be here for 10 days and then we will be separated again. I am trying to dwell on knowing that I will get to sleep next to my hubs in a tiny bed for 10 days. Go to dinner, go on hikes, go rafting, laugh together, and just be with my bestie. And even though we will be in different states for awhile, I will know that it could always be worse. 

Hopefully once he gets based we will know if he is deploying right away or not. And we will just cross that bridge when we come to it. 

J and I have been so blessed during this time apart, I know that he made the right decision joining the Navy. We have had our hard days, but it has only made us stronger. 

Holla! Let the count down begin!

Sunday, July 11, 2010

Fabulous Weekend!

This weekend was FABULOUS! Friday night was on the quiet side. My in-laws left Friday for a friends cabin. I spent the evening relaxing, drinking a yummy vodka lemonade, and eating lumpia. Lumpia is a Chammoro dish (Guamanian) that is like spring rolls with meat but way way better. They are so yummy and amazing. And a total treat. We had some left over (frozen) from Christmas maybe and I finally got my hands on them. Not quite as good as when they are fresh, but pretty darn amazing still. I caught up on some TV shows and just kind of relaxed and rejuvenated. Yay =0)

Then Saturday I worked and thankfully it was not crazy. It still went by fast and that was awesome! After work I got to go to lunch for a friends birthday and that was nice. I felt a little bad because I had to ditch out on wine tasting with the girls but I went and met up with my in-laws at the cabin. Being at the cabin is amazing. I was only there for the late after noon, night, and the we left early this morning. Totally worth it though! We played cards, I lost, but had tons of fun! And the night was topped off with tent camping with my doggies. Love being in the outdoors! 

Today we went rafting...Ahh one of my absolute favorite things to do. The only thing missing today was J. He is my rower. We have the best time on the boat just chatting, soaking in the sun, and just being with each other. Love. So today was almost perfect. We went rafting with the family. My father in law rowed and MoLaw and I soaked up the sun. We ended up with my nieces a few times and OMG they are total dolls! We went swimming, ate amazing food, laughed really hard and had a great time. At one point I was stepping from one boat to the other, slipped on the wet rubber, slid into Doc, and laid on the bottom of the boat giggling. Our whole crew was laughing so hard at my little fall that it made it hard for me to stop laughing! I am a little clumsy, but no worse for the wear! 

What a fabulous weekend and in less that 2 weeks my hunny will be here too!!!! YAY!!!!!

Here are some pictures from our rafting trip:
Love my river, I do!


Doc looking beautiful!

Bob is a swimmer!

Doc fetching

So happy!!!
Sorry for the long post!

Friday, July 9, 2010

Crazy weekend

It's just Bob Barker and I holding down the fort tonight. And while sometimes that feels lonely, tonight I am glad to have the house to myself. No one to entertain, I can go to bed early, eat what I want and just relax. 

I am sad to report that I will not be hanging out in my kiddie pool tomorrow =( Instead I will be heading up to a cabin to hang out with my in-laws and John and Shellie. It will be bliss. I can hang out with my pups on the water and take in some sunshine. Then on Sunday we will be rafting. I am gettin my dark white on peeps!!! =) And just wait... Next weekend that kiddie pool is calling me. And I will post amazing pics =) HAHA!!!!!

Hope y'all have a great weekend. Spend some time with the people you love and get some sun. Every one needs a little vitamin D!!! 

Love ya sweets!

Thursday, July 8, 2010

Happy Thursday!!

This week is going by so fast! Work has been crazy busy, especially since we had the 4th off. While I am always stoked to have and extra day off, we certainly pay for it later! And tomorrow I will be saying TGIF!!!

This weekend I have to work =( but then I will be sitting my white self in a floaty in the kiddie pool in the back yard. White trash? Maybe. But I'm gonna rock it anyway!!

Hope you all have a great weekend!!!


Tuesday, July 6, 2010

4 months...

It's been 4 months since J has been away and I am more than a little over it. I miss having my best friend around. The person who knows me better than I know myself. This weekend felt especially hard. J's parents left Thursday and I had the house to myself for the whole long weekend. I had forgotten how much work it is to keep a house clean all by yourself while you are cooking, running to work, and just generally being on the go. It made me appreciate how easy my MoLaw and Fasha make it look. And the house is lonely. Just me and Bob Barker. I missed having someone to talk to, or someone just in the house at the same time. I can't wait for the hubs to get back home so I can be with my bestie again. 
So to get away from the loneliness I headed up to the Lake where some of my friends were camping. Not gonna lie, I didn't have the best time. One of my good friends K was being a total downer. She complained about everything. It's too cold, the water is too choppy, so and so won't come over to our camp she just stays at hers. And nothing I said made a bit of difference. I am pretty sure my positive attitude just annoyed her. But I stayed, thinking that at some point we are going to have fun, right? Eh... Not really. Just the amazing-ness of camping with fires and making s'mores. I love s'mores. THAT was fun. 
While I was hanging out with my friends I missed J more. I missed having someone to talk to. I missed having someone to say, "uh, it is me? Am I ticking her off? Should I let it  go? Should I go talk to her? Or is she just being pissy?" I missed having someone to joke around with and be silly with. I missed my camping partner. The person who makes camping fun for me. I miss my best friend. 
And (thankfully) J's school is coming to an end. I see the light at the end of the tunnel. I am ready to move past this stage and move to the Island. And I am going to be happy about being in Washington because at least I will have sand underneith my feet. And, according to the weather on my phone, this week it will actually get into the 80's there! Apparently the sun does shine up there sometimes!!! 
Hopefully we will know today if J is going to deploy right away or not. My life may be in the hand of the Navy, but not my happiness. If he deploys right away I will take joy in the fact that we are getting it done and over with now. If he doesn't deploy right away I will enjoy being with my husband again and drooling over him in his uniforms. =)
Sorry for the long post... Just my jumbled thoughts spilling out. 
L <3

Saturday, July 3, 2010

Summer TIme is Here to STAY!

I am excited to report that I get to go to the Lake today! I am super excited. Not only because I will get to hang out with some of my lovely friends, but those lovely friends are taking me tubing for the first time!!! I am stinkin' excited! I am pretty sure that I am going to get thrashed around but it should be so much fun. Also, all of my favorite foods can be found at a BBQ, so I am also excited to get up there and eat. Hot dogs and burgers here I come!!!

Well I can't go until I finish up all the "have to do's" so I need to quit blogging. 

Love ya homes! Be safe out there, and don't forget your sunscreen!